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Resolving Personal Conflicts

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Firstly, let me point out that conflict for a Christian is the difference between what is believed and what the Word of God says. Fresh Start… what does that even mean? It means taking personal responsibility by learning the truth in Resolving Personal Conflicts. As varied as it maybe, it reflects the kind of stripping back to the beginning and remembering your core identity is in in Jesus.  Since Jesus touches our lives in every sense of our being, this means different things to different people. Many have lost their way by forgetting who they are and what it means to be Christian. Some become fearful and loose hope for the future. But beneath all of this is a real sense of responsibility to know who God really is and who we really are. Beginning with knowing who’s responsible for what and remembering our personal responsibility is the beginning of the Fresh Start.  I have heard people ask God in prayer to do things that He has clearly asked us to do. This is to recognise that
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Resolving Spiritual Conflicts

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Knowing that I cannot repent, renounce, forsake, forgive or submit for someone else, I hope to point out how to recognise when these things are overlooked and what to do about it. Fresh Start… what does that even mean? I think it means what many others have told me their experience has been. As varied at it maybe it reflects the kind of stripping back to the beginning and remembering your core identity is in in Jesus.  Since Jesus touches our lives in every sense of our being, this means different things to different people.  Many have lost their way by forgetting who they are and what it means to be Christian. Some become fearful and loose hope for the future. But beneath all of this is a real sense of responsibility to know who God really is and who we really are. Beginning with knowing who’s responsible for what.  I have heard people ask God in prayer to do things that He has clearly asked us to do. this shows up in a very tiny scripture where James 5 verse 13 says, “if any
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DISARMING WORDS TO USE IN A CONFLICT

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“Someone disrespects me but I cannot disrespect them”…? Yes, that is correct. Describing someone who is not emotionally invested in a relationship with you, and when in conflict you would be just a pawn, where nothing gets resolved. Recognising this you would probably be seeing narcissistic tendencies in yourself or in others. For some, it may be the very first time that you realise how much of yourself you have given up for the sake of peace and may have suffered at the hands of a narcissist. Yes… “Someone disrespects you but you disrespecting them is cause to react” doesn’t seem right…? Your response, not your reaction Recognising the lack of insight in how to break the cycle of self-defeat and your lacking self-trust, here are some of the responses that disarm and defuse unwanted verbal interaction that trigger anger and control. This is allowing you to begin to regain ground lost, by keeping these responses in mind when you are confronted. Self-trust is knowing who you re
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FIVE WAYS TO FULFIL YOUR POTENTIAL

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In life, many people do not reach their full potential. We can become so caught up in the everyday that it is easy to continue in old patterns rather than change. Yet, we all have a God-given desire to live to our full potential.  For some people, that just about sums up their life. And yet, all of us feel deep down ‘there must be more to life than that’. Jesus says, in effect, ‘Yes, there is!’. The potential for every human being is great. Jesus wants you to live a highly productive life. He wants you to produce ‘a crop – a hundred, sixty or thirty times what was sown’ (Matthew 13:8). The minimum is a thirty-times multiplication. The key to that potential lies in your relationship with Jesus – a relationship that can be as close as that of a brother or sister or mother (12:50). You can live a life of real purpose that will make a difference to the world, because of what you receive from him (13:11,12,16). Your potential is not about being driven by ambition or succe
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RESOLVING A PAST CONFLICT

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You have no control over a primary emotion, developed in the past, when it is triggered. It doesn’t do any good to feel guilty about something over which you have no control. But you can seek to resolve the past conflict and you can immediately evaluate the present circumstance to bring it into perspective. For example, suppose you meet a man named Bill. He looks like the Bill who used to beat you up as a child. Even though he’s not the same person, your primary emotion initially jumps to a 8 on a scale of 10. But you mentally tell yourself that this is not the same Bill, and you think yourself down to a 2. You have not only used this process yourself thousands of times, but you have also helped others do it. Someone flies off the handle, so you grab him and tell him to get hold of himself. You are helping that person gain control of himself by making him think. Notice how this works the next time you’re watching a football game and tempers explode on the field. One player grabs an
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